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Secular thinker with an empathy compulsion. Anxiety-nerd. Certified Crazy Cat Lady.

Especially when how you feel isn’t helping

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You know those kids who grow up hearing ‘try again, you can do it!’ rather than ‘you’re lazy and don’t want to do it right and I feel disappointed’ when they make a mistake?

Yeah, can’t relate.

Don’t get me wrong, my parents are honourable, well-meaning people who did their…

Ageing gracefully isn’t just for rich white women

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It’s a well-documented fact that women past the age of 40 cease to exist. No longer able to appease the sex-centric (male) gaze with their fertile faces and bodies, they simply phase out of reality, quietly.

Rare instances of women continuing to exist past this calamitous age have been documented…

Being okay with that is so freeing

NASA photo of Earth from space, the nigh time side of the planet in view, with cities creating a web of lights
Just a speck of dust amongst billions. — Photo by NASA on Unsplash

We all want to matter, to be truly remarkable at something — find your purpose, live your best life and all that.

Don’t we? So I’ve been told. Yet, do people who live in an off the grid commune in the woods and spend their days farming and contributing to…

I must be so annoying as a writer

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There are a lot of things that grind my gears when it comes to the daily life of an online reader, but I do have six top-tier grievances.

These can be broken down in two main, self-centred categories:

A. things that piss me off about people’s writing, haha — and

‘The Black Marble: Our Planet in Brilliant Darkness’, via the breathtaking resources over at

Guidelines vs. doctrine and why minorities might want a say in this debate, too

I’m aware of how unpopular of an opinion this is going to be. If I was more popular myself, I’d be bracing for impact right now. …

A loving letter to my fellow punk-rockers over 30

The alternative scene has a problem.

By alternative, I don’t just mean Nirvana fans. I mean those who enjoy that music which most other people feel is noise: punk, rock of whichever type that is actually rock and not pop, goth, etc. And by problem, I mean people over 30…

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Spoiler alert: they lie.

My Mum has this saying that’s pretty popular with her clients in therapy: emotion is not information.

Now, at first glance, that might seem flat-out wrong: of course, emotion offers vital information. Why actually, without emotions, humans would have serious trouble with their decision-making. You need to know how you…

and 3 big things I haven’t mastered yet

My first cat, Sky, accurately depicting my face as I contemplate this.

Me since, basically, forever: You know what I will never be caught dead writing? Those bollocks internet listicles.

Also me: You know what I should do now that I’ve turned 30? One of those internet listicles!

It’s also worth mentioning that I’m a 30-year-old white female, living in a ‘second…

Damn, that sounded a lot better in my head

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I’m guilty of thinking out loud. As in, I say something — wait for it — oh fuck, that sounded stupid/insulting/wrong. Is it just me?

Usually, I can just immediately call myself out, rephrase, explain myself. You know, acknowledge my mistake, fix it best I can, apologise, and move on.

Or so I’ve heard

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It’s out there with the best stereotypes: white folk can’t dance, people of colour have above average singing voices, avoid girls with daddy issues.

Some of these stereotypes are harmless, like as a white person I’m still not always sure about white people and dancing: though I have seen many…

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