I could meet a woman today, who could change my stance on all of the above. While I’m not actively searching for her, I don’t think anyone is supposed to. Where my focus is today, is on becoming the best version of me I possibly can. To create the kind of life I truly want to live for myself. I figure if maybe I can perfect loving myself first, than perhaps I won’t be so damn bad at love.
There is so much wisdom in this. Many a disappointment stems from coming into a relationship hoping it will help fix one’s broken self. But that view is more akin to taking a car to the mechanic. At least the mechanic knows exactly what they’re getting into and what they’re being paid to fix the issue. I’m done hoping anyone else can fix me and am far too old to be as entitled as to demand that they do so. That’s a bad place to be coming into a relationship from, anyway. Regardless of my relationship status, I’m just working on the one thing I can change, myself. I relate to your viewpoint.