There is so much wisdom in this. Many a disappointment stems from coming into a relationship hoping it will help fix one’s broken self. But that view is more akin to taking a car to the mechanic. At least the mechanic knows exactly what they’re getting into and what they’re being paid to fix the issue. I’m done hoping anyone else can fix me and am far too old to be as entitled as to demand that they do so. That’s a bad place to be coming into a relationship from, anyway. Regardless of my relationship status, I’m just working on the one thing I can change, myself. I relate to your viewpoint.